Belonging is the glue that holds a team together—the shared context that allows people to show up, extend grace, and offer genuine support. When individuals feel that they belong, they bring their whole selves to work. They no longer worry about fitting in or being judged; instead, they give their best effort with confidence and care.
Belonging shapes the framework through which a team communicates, collaborates, and sets goals. It creates the container—the cup—that gives the team’s energy form and direction. In high-performance teams like military units, firefighting crews, or professional sports teams, belonging isn’t optional. It’s embedded in their culture. It’s what allows them to step up together, again and again, regardless of challenge or risk.
Belonging and Readiness
Readiness reflects a team’s capability to meet the demands of its current mission. Teams with a strong sense of belonging typically have higher readiness because trust fosters honesty and engagement in the goal-setting process. When individuals feel safe, they can say things like, “I don’t think we’re ready for this,” without fear of negative consequences. That honest feedback becomes the foundation for improving performance.
This culture of truth-telling is what separates high-performing teams from groups mired in toxic positivity—where everyone pretends things are fine to maintain harmony. Belonging creates space for both vulnerability and accountability, strengthening readiness in the process.
Belonging and Retention
We all want to spend our lives in meaningful work surrounded by people who appreciate us. Highly skilled professionals, in particular, seek environments where they can fully belong—where they can excel without leaving parts of themselves at the door. Many organizations lose exceptional talent not because of pay but because employees don’t feel valued or seen.
When belonging erodes, so does retention. A revolving-door team can never reach the “performing” stage of development, constantly cycling through forming and norming instead. High belonging, on the other hand, keeps teams stable, engaged, and aligned in purpose.
The Human Side of Work
Leaders and team members alike are more than their job titles. Each person brings a full life into the workplace—families, hobbies, pets, ambitions, and dreams. Yet, too many organizations expect people to leave their personal selves behind. That expectation limits authenticity and makes true belonging nearly impossible.
Recognizing the whole person transforms connections. People don’t show up to work purely for the tasks—they show up for the lives that work enables. When teams acknowledge this truth, they cultivate empathy, patience, and stronger collaboration.
Building Belonging Through Connection
Belonging grows through both strong and weak ties. Strong ties might come from shared identities or experiences—attending the same college, coming from the same hometown, or belonging to similar communities. Weak ties, in contrast, are smaller, everyday connections: a shared love of coffee, the same pet name, or a favorite TV show. These light links add up, creating easy touchpoints for communication and empathy.
Every casual chat, inside joke, or shared interest helps the team understand one another beyond tasks. Over time, these connections improve teamwork and make communication more honest and fluid.
A Simple Habit to Strengthen Bonds
One practical way to foster belonging is by starting a weekly meeting with a question like, “What’s a non-work win you’ve had recently?” Though simple, this exercise opens the door for people to share more about themselves in a positive way. It sets a warm, human tone, reminds the team of recent successes, and primes everyone’s mindset toward problem-solving and progress.
This doesn’t need to happen at every meeting, but even once a week, it helps people reconnect with their full selves and with each other on a more personal level.
Belonging isn’t a soft or secondary part of teamwork—it’s the foundation. It shapes readiness, stability, communication, and retention. When people feel seen and valued, they don’t just perform better; they create an environment where everyone can thrive, grow, and do meaningful work together.
Source : Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results by Charlie Gilkey
Goodreads : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/64000103-team-habits
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