Thinking Beyond Science

Imagine a pencil: its outside is a colorful wooden casing, appealing and protective, but the real essence lies inside—the lead, the purpose that marks the page. We humans mirror this duality. We have an outer self, shaped by appearances and interactions, and an inner core, our true being. Life’s challenges, like criticism and grief, test this balance, stirring our emotions and demanding we protect that inner lead.

Criticism from others can unsettle our mental well-being, no matter the intent—whether genuine help, insensitivity, habit, or malice. It leaves our minds disturbed if we lack tools to handle it. Remember: never make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. Our feelings sway like ocean waves, but their consequences linger. Only on still water, after waves subside, can we reflect clearly. An agitated mind clouds judgment on the right path.

In our world of fast-spreading misinformation where the loudest voice often wins, approach criticism wisely. First, introspect alone: Is there any truth in what they said? If unsure, seek a second round with trusted friends, family, or mentors—those closest, to whom we reveal our hearts in confidence. They’ll share truths we can digest. This ‘fact-check’ uncovers if there’s an ounce of validity, helping us respond from strength, not reaction.

Grief reveals our inner vulnerabilities even more profoundly. Emotions like shock, guilt, anger, disbelief, and deep sadness creep up over time. The greater the loss, the more intense it feels—most acutely from losing a loved one, but also from heartbreak, job loss, retirement, miscarriage, or a cherished dream shattered.

Grieving isn’t a rush job; it takes time and varies by person. Factors include how close we were to the loss, past experiences, personality, support systems, and coping mechanisms. Though not a medical disease, grief brings universal emotional symptoms: feeling trapped in a nightmare, going crazy, rejecting cherished religious or spiritual values, or shocked disbelief—expecting the lost one to appear despite knowing they’re gone.

Sadness dominates, sparking tears and emotional instability. Anger or guilt often follows—anger at the loss itself, others involved, or as a way to rationalize; guilt for not preventing it, unspoken feelings, or even relief that it’s over.

Even well-meaning people new to grief might fumble comfort, saying or doing the wrong things. Overlook it—the rule is: if they’re there, they care.

Healthy grieving tools empower us:

• Write a grief journal, paint, sing, or champion a cause close to the lost one.
• Take up supportive hobbies like team sports or learning a new skill.
• Exercise regularly.
• Plan ahead for triggers like weddings, anniversaries, or birthdays.

Like the pencil’s lead, our inner essence endures. By stilling waves of emotion, fact-checking criticism, and patiently grieving, we mark our own meaningful path.

Source : Energize Your Mind by Gaur Gopal Das

Goodreads : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/60758158-energize-your-mind

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