How Mindset Shapes Our Reality

Our attitude impacts the quality of our life way more deeply than we realize. A positive, healthy attitude boosts our character and energy. It acts as a magnet to attract more success and wellbeing into our life. Even in the face of a failure or setback, a positive attitude enables us to learn, see possibilities and solutions and bounce back. It motivates us to reaffirm that every situation is accurate and beneficial. It becomes a tool to overcome obstacles and accomplish our goals. It also equips us to evolve into a stronger individual.

In contrast, having a negative attitude makes us perceive everything with pessimism; that if something can go wrong in life, it certainly will. We tend to focus on what is not right in people, situations or events and overlook the good. Instead of spotting possibilities, we spot limitations. We often feel annoyed, become disrespectful and hostile towards people and situations. Every challenge becomes a stumbling block and at times we tend to give up on ourselves and others. Unhealthy attitude blocks our peace, happiness, love and blessings.

Have you wondered how someone is able to think positively in the toughest of situations, while someone else thinks negatively even in a perfect scenario? Why do our minds work so differently? The difference is caused by these three sources, which our mind uses to create thoughts:

The beliefs we hold
The content we consume
The past experiences we carry

A belief is an idea that we hold and consider to be the truth. Our ability to think and reason leads us to believe some things and disbelieve other things based on experiments, experiences and conditioning. Consciously or unconsciously, we have gathered thousands of beliefs across nearly every aspect of life. All our beliefs are ingrained in the subconscious mind. On the basis of these beliefs, thoughts are created in the conscious layer of our mind.

The mind assumes that our beliefs are the absolute truth. We become convinced about them even if certain beliefs make us uncomfortable. We gather many layers of beliefs, particularly during our formative years.

When we perceive people through the labels we attribute to them, eventually, we draw the vibrations of that label into our own energy field. Everyone has admirable qualities. Focusing on them, magnifying them and attributing positive labels to the person who displays these qualities will uplift other people and elevate our thinking as well. But by labelling people negatively, we lower our vibrations and disempower them. Therefore, it is important to take care of what we believe about others, especially children, and how we label them. Children who learn everything about the world from parents, teachers and other elders, also learn about themselves from these people.

The information or content we feed into the mind constitutes the second source for the generation of our thoughts. Every piece of information we consume, whether important or not and whether we pay attention to it or not, becomes a source for our thoughts. This means everything that we hear, watch, read, write and converse about is information for the mind. It is our emotional diet. Once it is taken in, the information gets absorbed in the mind. It becomes our vibration, our energy —just like the food we eat becomes our nutrition, the energy of the body.

The mind is drawn into negativity quickly, believing it to be normal. As is often the case, your child returns home safely. Even though you are relieved to see her, chances are you do not remain calm. Your temperament and harsh words lead to arguments. If you reflect on the incident later, your mind thinks of the reason for the arguments and blames the child. Actually, your child is not at fault; rather, it is the fault of your pent-up negative thoughts created while waiting for her.

Even in the name of entertainment, the quality of content we consume has become questionable. If we are consuming content which has ego, lust, greed, aggression, fear, hatred and other such negative emotions, then it is natural for these vibrations to dictate the quality of our thoughts. Choosing the content you consume is as important as choosing what you eat, if not more. Be aware and make informed choices. Not knowing something may not necessarily equate to ignorance. But knowing what to know is wisdom.

Many of us do not sleep on time because we want to catch up on a favourite show online. We do not eat right because of surfing TV channels at mealtimes. We deprive ourselves of rest because of mindless scrolling. We do not spend time with our family because we are busy liking and commenting on social media posts. Indulgence in media and social media is aggravating our sanskars of aggression, jealousy, worry, fear, criticism, hatred, comparison and competition. We then respond to scenes of life through these sanskars. Can you see the correlation between content and your wellbeing? Can you see how content is affecting your happiness, health and relationships? In the last twenty years, we have created a world where diabetes, depression, cancer and divorce have become common. Content has a huge role to play in all this.

Our life experiences are recorded as memories. So we cannot just magically flush them out of our system and get rid of them.

But what we can certainly do is overwrite past memories by creating new recordings that make us happy, peaceful, loving and forgiving. Moving into the future with less emotional baggage is a choice. In our own experience, we have already given considerable thought to expressions like forgive and forget, ‘let go and move on’ and ‘seize the present moment?

But we have not applied these lines when a particular memory strikes. We have lost the present moment by brooding over something which ceases to exist.

This realization changes our perception about the unpleasant past-the people involved, their words, their behavior and the situation. As we create more and more thoughts of acceptance, as we think more lovingly, the mind starts storing new recordings and memories. New recordings of compassion, love and respect become reinforced.

Consequently, the past wounds hurt less and less, and finally they all get completely healed. The memory is still present in our mind but it no longer hurts. This is similar to a physical wound we got in childhood, perhaps when we tripped and fell. Today, ten, twenty or forty years later, the scar might still be visible on our body but it does not hurt. We do not even think about it. We have forgotten about that wound because it is no longer obstructing our day-to-day activities. The same happens with emotional wounds. When it no longer hurts, it means forgiving, forgetting, letting go and moving on – have all already happened.

Source : The Power of One Thought: Master Your Mind, Master Your Life by BK Shivani

Goodreads : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/156980106-the-power-of-one-thought

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